Battle: Generally, a battle is a conceptual component in the hierarchy of combat in warfare between two or more armed forces, or combatants. A war sometimes consists of many battles. Battles generally are well defined in duration, area and force commitment.

Constant, heated battles,
Angry with me most days,
You want to shout out loud, be heard
Determined to do things your way.

You feel you’re so grown up now,
Yet you’re not quite old enough,
To do the things you’d like to do.
You’re finding it so tough.

You challenge every sentence.
You feel wronged in every way.
You get frustrated, get grumpy,
From one mood to the next you sway.

You say I make you angry,
That I’m cross all of the time.
You answer back because you,
Think you haven’t done the crime.

You’re quick to think the worst,
To think I’m constantly having a go.
You think I’m always saddened by you,
The seeds of doubt begin to sow.

Is this the beginning of teenagdom?
Is there worse to come?
Am I doing something wrong?
Am I not being a good mum?

Our bond is a very strong one,
Sometimes we’re just too close.
Too similar, we’re just the same.
She is like me the most.

We’re stubborn, always think we’re right.
Self doubt sometimes sneaks in.
Attacking the best form of defence,
Not stopping until we win.

She’s fiery, gorgeous, passionate and strong,
Confident and wild.
My gorgeous tween, my crazy girl,
My beautiful first child.

I try to stay calm when the whirlwind starts,
Hope the anger doesn’t last.
Take deep breaths and say to myself,
Don’t worry, this too shall pass.


Prose for Thought

16 Comments on Battles

  1. adjustingtomotherhood
    September 5, 2013 at 11:16 am (11 years ago)

    Lovely and brilliant.
    It will get worse then better.
    Speaking from the daughters perspective. She’s lucky she has such a great bond with you, that goes far. Mum was then as a teenager and is now as a mum myself, my best friend x

    • instinctivemum
      September 5, 2013 at 11:29 am (11 years ago)

      Ah thank you, good to know it will get better x

  2. Iona@redpeffer
    September 5, 2013 at 11:38 am (11 years ago)

    I’m not being flippant here at all, but the relationship you describe is exactly mine with my daughter. Only thing is she’s 7. It’s going to make for an interesting ride I guess! The bond you have will come through the other side, hopefully even stronger too.

    • instinctivemum
      September 9, 2013 at 1:39 pm (11 years ago)

      Ah yes, my daughter has always been quite feisty (not sure where she gets that from lol!) And am looking forward to coming out of the other side!

  3. Charlotte Taylor (@CharlTaylor)
    September 5, 2013 at 1:12 pm (11 years ago)

    I can relate, even from just having a 15 month-old. Their battle to grow up and away and our battle to keep them closer. Beautiful. xx

    • instinctivemum
      September 9, 2013 at 1:39 pm (11 years ago)

      Thank you, wish they could stay close for ever x

  4. uncheshire wife
    September 5, 2013 at 2:15 pm (11 years ago)

    It’s not that much different with boys either. Isn’t it hard to keep calm sometimes.

    • instinctivemum
      September 9, 2013 at 1:40 pm (11 years ago)

      So hard!

  5. Stephanie
    September 5, 2013 at 2:47 pm (11 years ago)

    YIkes. My two year old is like this. It can’t get worse can it? Lovely picture.

  6. msmummyoftwo
    September 5, 2013 at 8:01 pm (11 years ago)

    Lovely, the words and the picture. I feel this too x

  7. Rachel hirst
    September 6, 2013 at 2:44 pm (11 years ago)

    I have boys and we have had some fiery times to say the least and as someone else said it doesn’t get much easier.One of mine is a Teenager and built like a man and so up and down with moods and emotions.It is worth it though.

  8. Victoria Welton
    September 7, 2013 at 11:21 pm (11 years ago)

    Absolutely brilliant 🙂 I think its so hard when you are at logger heads with your kids but it also shows just how much you love each other and how similar you really are. Thank you for linking to Prose for Thought x

    • instinctivemum
      September 9, 2013 at 1:43 pm (11 years ago)

      Scarily similar lol!

  9. Sarah MumofThree World
    September 26, 2013 at 11:40 am (11 years ago)

    Fab poem and a familiar situation for me, although I have it with my boy!

    • instinctivemum
      October 5, 2013 at 9:38 am (11 years ago)

      So hard isn’t it? I do hope it gets easier, some day!

  10. Mum Reinvented
    October 8, 2013 at 10:23 am (11 years ago)

    Love this! Exactly like my 11 year old at the moment, can’t wait for the hormones to get under control although I fear this is just the beginning!


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